Questions – A Two-Sided Coin

“Why is the sky blue?”

“Where does milk come from?”

“When is my birthday?”

“Why are grandpa’s ears so big?” 

Kids are full of questions and curiosity. 

That is the reason our kids ask so many questions. 

“How was your day?”

“What did you get on the test?”

“When is the party over?”

“Why on earth are you wearing that?

Parent’s are full of questions and curiosity.

That is the reason we ask so many questions.

But, let’s be honest, questions can be super annoying when they are asked back to back, fact based, and barely require that we wait for the response.

However, the right kind of questions can also be very powerful.

“Mommy, why are you sad?”

“Where did I come from?”

“Why do people have to die?”

“Will you play with me?”

Kids are capable of deep thoughts and a desire for deep connection.

That is why they ask these kind of questions.

“Can you tell me more about the book you’re reading; what do you like about it?”

“What is the nicest thing someone has ever done for you?”

“What is your biggest fear or frustration, right now?”

“How can I help you?”

Parents are capable of deep thoughts and a desire for deep connection.

That is why they ask these kind of questions.

Asking better questions is the first step to building better relationships. Giving thoughtful responses to our children when they are young, develops the kind of powerful relationship that lasts a lifetime. If you can engage in the right kind of questions when they are little and you take the time to allow yourself to be a little uncomfortable, walking through your thought process, they will return the favor.

Too many times when our kids ask questions, we give them the facts – just the facts, or worse, brush them off because we are “too busy.” Be careful: We reap what we sow. When your kiddos hit the teen years and they now know more than you – and trust me on some things they DO KNOW more than we do – you will wish they would really see past your question and into your heart.

Our kids can find answers to a lot of things on the internet, but they can’t really connect with you or anyone else without meaningful conversation. Sharing your thoughts, fears, and ambitions with your kids when they are young, helps them to have the words to share those all too confusing thoughts with you when they are older.

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